How to Push a Millennial Out of the Nest

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ShutterstockAccording to research, 14 percent of Millennials have moved back in with their parents.
By Michael Corbett

Moving out of your parent's house. Leaving the nest. For most of us, it was a rite of passage. We went to college, and then proudly headed out into the world to make our own way, while our parents turned our old room into another guest bedroom.

However, for a significant percentage of young adults, that rite of passage is now all about returning to the roost, rather than flying solo. According to Gallup research, 14 percent of Millennials, the age group of 24-34 year-olds, have moved back in with their parents. The homeownership rate for those under age 35 was 36.2 percent in the first quarter of 2014, down from a historical high of 43.1 percent at the end of 2005, according to Census data. According to numerous economic reports on

If you can sense that your boomerang kid is riding out his or her free meal ticket under your roof as long as they can, help them visualize when that ride will end

Millennials, this is attributed to a weak job market, high cost of living, significant college debt, and other factors.

These kids, as well as any adult children who have decided to move back in with mom and pop are lovingly referred to as "boomerang kids." Clearly the analogy is obvious. For Mom and Dad, who would love to have the "kids across the hall" become the 'kids across town,' here are seven pointers you might want to consider:

Start Charging Rent: Cut off the free ride. Yes, it sounds harsh, but you may be doing both you and your kid a favor. Managing money and a monthly budget is something that is not learned in school, and it is certainly not learned hanging out in your parent's converted attic for free. Give your boomerang kids a real estate reality check. If the free ride comes to a screeching halt and they are paying rent, they will probably want to do it in their own apartment, closer to (or with) their friends, near downtown or a closer drive to their office. Charge rent and enforce it. Once they start getting that first-of-the-month monetary wake up call, it might shock their system enough to have them consider alternative arrangements. If they're going to have a landlord no matter what, they're likely to consider a new, more independent situation.

Collect Monthly Payments: Here's another way to give them a foot out the door -- but still a leg up. Start charging them monthly payments now. Let them know that they will have to come up with the monthly equivalent to local rents each month for the next six months. At the end of the six months, you will give them back all the money when they move out. That does three things: You teach them budgeting skills, you incentivize them to move, and you give them a financial helping hand on move-out day.

Be z Strict Landlord: No parties, no loud music, no guests after 10 p.m. Keep the house rules strict. At some point, your kid is going to want to have a little independence, and some fun too. Living with a strict landlord may just be the incentive he or she needs to find a place of their own.

Set a Deadline ... and Stick to It: If you can sense that your boomerang kid is riding out his or her free meal ticket under your roof as long as they can, help them visualize when that ride will end. Create a deadline for them to move out and stick to it, no matter what. It's likely you never intended to have kids under your roof for more than two decades, so your children need to respect that...and they need to get on with their own lives. Even in a world where Millennials are underemployed compared to their Gen X, Y and Baby Boomer counterparts, there are still plenty of ways for them to make a living that enables them to live with a roommate or two or three...elsewhere.

Help Them Get Organized and Overcome the Mental Hurdle: After all the financial aspects are considered, one of the biggest hurdles to making a big move is mental: it just feels overwhelming. So many things to do, buy and organize before it can actually happen. Your child may just need the expertise of someone who's moved multiple times in their lives to talk them down off the "I'm too overwhelmed and can't do this" ledge. Map out all the necessities and then make a list of the "nice to haves down the road" so they can see what's an immediate need, and what can be done over the coming weeks and months.

Gift or Loan Them the Down Payment: Trulia's latest survey showed that 50 percent of Millennials surveyed plan go to their parents for help with the hefty down payment that's required to purchase a home in today's housing market. If you want your adult child up and out of your basement, consider giving them the financial head start now they need to form their own household and be independent.

Buy a Multi-Unit Investment Property: I am a huge proponent of purchasing multi-unit properties like a duplex, triplex or fourplex, because they are great investments. In the case of your "failure to launch" Millennial, slot them into one of the units of your new property and rent out the other unit(s). The rental income is likely to cover much of the costs of ownership, and you'll have a built-in property manager in the building to keep an eye on things. Plus, your boomerang kid is learning valuable management skills at the same time. It can be an investment property for you, and solve the "son or daughter is still in my basement" problem, all at the same time.

ALL: If you had an adult child living at home, what tactics worked to get them out of the nest?

ALL: You can get more information on my books here, follow me on Twitter@1MichaelCorbett and like me on Facebook.


Michael Corbett is Trulia's real estate and lifestyle expert. He hosts NBC's EXTRA's Mansions and Millionaires. In additional to his regular segments on ABC's The View and Fox News, he is a national best selling author with three critically acclaimed real estate books: Find It, Fix It, FLIP IT!; Ready, Set, SOLD! and Before You BUY!

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cecropio

The world is a lot tougher for these young adults than it was when we were starting out. It is more difficult to get a job that pays enough to cover all the costs of living on your own. I am getting where I need the help and don't mind having my children live with me to do all the things I can not do as easily. They can stay. They want "The Waltons" lifestyle. We are closer than we ever were. It's all about "family" and if you can get your children to understand that "We are all in it together, for everyone's benefit" type of thinking then you will be helping them with life's most important lessons --- LOVE!

July 31 2014 at 6:23 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Patsy

HI THERE- I really liked the housing market objective rules for house improvements this helps me in keeping tact with goals for improving my house and getting the kid out of the house in future after college were right on track here.
But know it s hard at doing allowing ours to make her choices here to at when she is ready to go which will be ours
is starting to go away to college in future and will move out in four years we hope in wonderful career a year later after
four year s of college in the profession of her dreams and when meeting the right guy there he will wait for her if he meant to be I still believe in the fairy tales things of marriage and either justice of peace or church.court room with judge. and then out for sure.when ready and start on improving in home to while shes in college something along that line for us good night.

July 30 2014 at 10:07 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply